Don’t give up on the world just yet. There’s still people who give without expecting anything in return. Those who will give their last to see someone else content. Whether it be a meal, a few coins, or a listening ear. There’s still kindness in the world. Let’s not give up just yet! Despite what’s wrong with the world as we see it, there’s people that do good without others knowing it. That meal they could have easily thrown away, they gave it to the homeless man everyone passes by on the street. Those few dollars they planned to spend on a cup of coffee, they spent it instead on a meal to feed someone in need. Those shoes and coats they could have thrown away, they donated to those less fortunate. There’s still good people in the world who give without their name in the spotlight or awards hanging on their walls. Let’s not give up on the world just yet. There’s still so much more good for us all to do.
My story began back in 2006 when I found myself and three of my children at the doorstep of Peoples Emergency Center- a temporary housing shelter for women and their children in Philadelphia. During that point in my life, I needed a helping hand and was grateful they were there to extend the basic needs often times many of us take for granite. We only resided at PEC for six months, but during that time I was able to save money for a new home, get back on my feet, and try to regain a sense of normalcy for myself and children. Hardly anyone knew we were there. I got up every morning, took them to daycare and went off to work as usual, but during that time with urgency to move somewhere permanent we could call home. They were too small to be aware of their surroundings and until this day don’t remember we were there, but I try to instill in them the importance of gratitude and giving in charity. I always kept in the back of my mind the need to return there not as a resident, but as someone who understands that women who face homelessness deserve hope and a chance to take back their independence and self-sufficiency. Women aren’t homeless because they choose to be, but because they find themselves in situations beyond their control. Some are running from abusive relationships, some lost their jobs and the bills became too much of a burden to bare; while others are there because unfortunately homelessness has become an epidemic and vicious cycle in our society and the only way to break it is to institute resources like job training, education, social and economic counseling, and affordable housing for the under represented and often times the forgotten.
My non profit organization For Her Sake Foundation, Inc. was birthed from my experiences as a mother and woman who faced homelessness. The short term mission of For Her Sake is to gather monetary donations in order to purchase toiletries for women and children at shelters in Philadelphia. My long term mission is to actually have a shelter of my own that temporarily houses women until they are able to get back on their feet. This weekend with the generous donations from others, I was able to purchase toiletries for women and their kids at PEC. I am humbly grateful to all those who selfishly gave. What I know for sure, is that we all have a story inside us and more often than not, our stories can help change the trajectory of someone else’s life if we are willing to live authentically with purpose and passion!
Dear Empowered Women,
I am writing you today to remind you of your beauty and strength. I’m writing to empower and encourage you to stay on course. Some days you may feel defeated, but I promise you it is only a test. It is your test and it’s up to you whether you pass. You are stronger than you think. You are resilient, incomparable and whole. You are not broken and please never allow others to put that stigma in your mind or on your heart. You will go as far in this life as you allow yourself and what has been decreed for you. You will not grow within the confines of your comfort zone. In order to love others, you must first love yourself in your entirety! You must believe that as long as you give from yourself selflessly, you will always be abundantly rich. Rich not in regards to money or anything tangible, but in mind, body and spirit. I implore you to remind yourself everyday that you are worthy of all the good that will come to you and that you are an empowered woman!
With much love,
Ladies, this will be our year. It will be a year of growth and prosperity. A year of getting out of our own way and vanquishing the naysayers. We will be empowered, inspired and motivated to not only uplift ourselves, but other women as well. We will fearlessly set goals and exceed our own expectations. We will return to school, get promoted, raise our children all while being our best possible selves. We will be advocates for our own health and well being. We will be abundant in our mind, body, and spirit. This will be our year to seize every opportunity that serves us best. This is our year of possibilities. This is the year of the woman!
In 2017, I’ve learned more about myself than any other year that has preceded. I’ve won and also failed at some endeavors, but I believe that’s apart of personal and professional growth. One lesson learned is that I am more productive when I don’t bite off more than I can chew. I always have a million ideas running through my head and want to dive in full throttle to accomplish them all, but I realized its counterproductive to try and be a jack of all trades. Not every idea needs to turn into a business venture or career goal. So, for 2018 I plan to continue being guided by the incomparable Halimah DeOliveira who is a transformational coach for women. She helps me put my vision into clear focus which tends to be a challenge for me at times. I’ve also listed out some attainable goals that I plan to accomplish by the end of next year like learning how to code, earning my masters degree in Information Systems, and being more involved with women in tech. Although, the image of being a Superwoman is appealing, the reality is as adults we have so much on our plates already the mere thought of adding more is sometimes overwhelming.
With 2018 only a few days away, I encourage myself and all of you reading this to reflect on your past successes and areas of improvement to ensure 2018 is your best year yet!
Our only limits are those we place on ourselves and those we allow to be placed on us by others. I wrote this quote one day in deep reflection about my life–specifically my career. I believe in the power of positive affirmations and that whatever we feed ourselves daily within our minds, is what we become. I tell myself that I will learn and master coding. That I will learn and master HTML and CSS so I can first build my own website and then help others to build theirs. I tell myself I am a Clinical Systems Analyst working in a prominent hospital helping end users and my team. I tell myself that I will graduate with my masters degree in IT and empower women to enter and remain in STEM careers. These are my affirmations. They are what keeps me motivated and encouraged to continue treading this path I’m on.
Technically She Can! is a support group I’ve recently created to encourage women in tech. With all the disheartening news we read about how women are being discriminated against, harassed and sometimes forced out of their tech roles, it prompted me to begin this initiative. I believe coding should be instituted in all schools regardless of the zip code or economic status of the children. I believe girls and women should be encouraged to learn and thrive in STEM fields. I believe there needs to be a stronger support and mentorship/sponsorship system in place for women because technically women can do anything we set our minds to if we earnestly believe in the possibilities for our lives!
My next posts will be about my journey of building my first website for myself using a text editor. I look forward to the end result and getting your feedback!